Today focus involves the Fire Element as it relates to our relationships, our energy levels, and our overall enthusiasm for life. Fire element rules our actions in all areas including relationships. Relationships often are the primary place where the walls of restriction in our communication are built. Unfortunately those restrictions often result in producing and sustaining blocks in the emotional system which consequently reduces the vital energy available for life in general. Life begins to lack Fire and flavor.
Let's look at relationships and the emotional system. Think about those closest to you and think about the subjects that have become taboo. How many things do you hold back from saying because your loved one will not approve, or will feel disapproved of? Of course when the internal pressure builds up, these will be the very subjects that will come up in a fight. Now consider the fights and the occasional positive after effect. Ever wonder why you feel more energized, and ever wonder why make up passion is so good? Well, finally being able to speak our truth flushes energy into the fire element where passion is stirred. That's why. The goal here is to speak our truth to those closest to us more consistently, fueling our fire element for more passion in general, and doing so without the fights. Let us Toggle the fight out first. Neutralize the over reactions we exhibit.
I can hear you now. "Why go to all that work? Best just to leave well enough alone."
I have news for you, speaking your truth is extremely good for your health!!
So now, how do we proceed? Focus on these "taboo" subjects and ponder the emotional overtones. It is the emotional reactions that make these subject difficult. Again, the biggest problem with limiting communication is that is automatically also limits our passion for life and our desires to share and extend intimacy. We do indeed sacrifice a lot when we avoid "Rocking the Boat".
Toggle each emotion that comes up when you consider the scary issues, and when you feel the fear of bringing the subjects up.... Toggle It. Toggle the anxiety, the sense of betrayal, inadequacy, distrust, anger, despair, guilt, fear of abandonment, self loathing, etc.
Once these Toggles have been done revisit the issues in your mind and you will find it much easier to think about them, and you will possess more motivation to discuss them with your loved ones. Once you get to this place, where you are finding it much easier to think about the tough issues, and you are more willing to outright discuss the issues, then it is time to do exactly that. Bravely, calmly, be willing to "Rock The Boat" a little. You will find that after these Toggles you will be more insightful, more understanding of different perspectives, more able to hear what your loved one is really saying. And I have more good news for you, they will be able to hear you better too! This is the perfect emotional "soil" for growing some new opportunities in your relationships.
The best time to schedule a discussion is between 7 and 11pm when the Fire element is strongest for matters of relationships, and plan on discussing these things without the need for alcohol. You wont need that drink for courage anymore, because your courage will be intact. This approach fuels more energy into the Fire element improving heart function, circulation, digestion, and hormone balance, resulting in higher vitality, enthusiasm, and motivation. Oh yeah, and Passion!
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