Today we again focus on the Wood Element. The defensive emotions of anger, frustration, bitterness, and resentment are all associated with the Wood Element. Last week we focused on impatience and this week I will highlight defensiveness. This emotion usually runs on automatic pilot. Chronic defensiveness in the mind stirs a hyper defensiveness in the body as well in the form of itchiness and inflammation.
Since being defensive is often a chronic emotional condition, we have to get creative in order to isolate the feeling for a good Toggle session. To do so, write down a list of people you believe to be critical of you. One by one, look at each name are recall or imagine their criticism of you. With each one focus on the feeling it stirs up in you and pull it in. As you move to the next person, repeat the process. As you pull in the defensiveness you feel, it is helpful to envision strength and beauty coming to you out of each Toggle.
If you are chronically defensive you may also find yourself often imagining being criticized by strangers as well. Every time you notice yourself feeling attacked, whether it is real or imagined, stop and pull in the feeling. This can take the better part of a week to complete, after which you will experience calm level of clarity, which is a gift from the Wood Element. All of your relationships will improve along with your skin and itchy conditions.
Wow. This one is taking me some time to complete. I was very surprised to learn what a large role defensiveness plays in my communication with others every single day. I do not consider myself to be a defensive person, but sure enough once I began to focus on it I realized how engrained in my system it really is.
ReplyDeleteAs I toggle defensiveness, I find that I am more able to truely offer the best of myself to the world- and to me! This is definitely a work in progress, but it grants great rewards with each Defensive Toggle I complete!